The problem with most fanfiction on this site
And herein lies the issue
I had a brief interaction with someone today about putting abusive relationships as an unnecessary part of a story today. They wanted to use an abusive parent to drive a character out of the home and in to the home of what I assumed was going to be the love interest. I maybe was a little overdramatic in doing so but I asked them to reconsider and use a different kind of plot device to do that (I can think of like four right off hand).
I understand if they wanted to disregard me, but then I got some very conflicting and concerning messages about why they didn’t want to take abuse out of the story.
At first I thought they might change their mind. They said that they understood why I wouldn’t like it but at the same time, they also said that in essence they didn’t care. Because people used eating disorders in fanfictions they read and they didn’t like that, they should be able to use an abusive relationship to drive the story in a way that could be achieved otherwise. That’s just downright ridiculous. That’s like saying just because someone broke in to your house and stole something, that gives you the right to break in to your neighbor’s house and take what you want. There’s no reason to use someone else’s bad decision to fuel your own.
I linked them to my (rather heated) statements about it that I made last week (that you can read here and here). To sum up, putting a situation like that in to a story, be it self harm, a mental illness or eating disorder, or an abusive relationship solely to drive two characters in to a relationship is never the thing to do. It gives people false expectations about those kinds of things. To quote myself, “you can’t have some kid think that getting a boyfriend is going to cure them, and you can’t let some nice person think that their girlfriend is going to be fine just because you say you love them. It takes time, months if not YEARS, therapy and sometimes medication depending on what’s going on and what’s happened to them, relapses and guilt and sometimes a relationship can’t make it through that.”
Which, I understand if someone doesn’t get that. I’m not saying that it’s a problem that’s going to be solved immediately. But the mentality behind it is what worries me.
The reply I got really really made me worried. Like, deeply worried in a way I’m not sure how to express.
If people took your suggestion and stopped using devices like those in fanfiction, there would be less interesting fics
There are plenty of fanfictions that either 1) don’t reference or have anything to do with the subjects listed above or 2) treat them in a realistic way that doesn’t give anyone delusions or romanticize things. Putting in a character that deals with anything like that just to have someone come alone and ‘cure’ them with love is one of the worst things you could do in a fanfiction, in my opinion.
If you need a character to attempt suicide, or have depression, or have escaped from an abusive relationship to be able to write an ‘interesting’ character or fanfiction then YOU ARE A BAD WRITER.
Now that I’ve said that, using those plot devices or as a way to characterize a person in a story isn’t totally taboo. But saying “oh this person has depression, giving them a boyfriend will make it better” is bad writing. Suicide, self harm, abuse and mental illness all leave scars on a person that aren’t going to disappear in a few days or weeks. If you want to write a character who deals with this realistically, by all means! Go right ahead! And I would love to read it, to be honest.
Now I just wonder WHY there’s such an attitude about this. I feel like it can’t be fixed unless the source is identified. Is it because people feel like they need a character to be rescued or be a rescuer? Is there some sort of damsel in distress theme that people are still drawn to? Or is it just the trend of the times to have a fanfiction seem ‘edgy’ or ‘cool’?
Frankly, I haven’t the foggiest. If I knew I might have a better direction to put this in than just what feels like random.
On a side note, I’ve got a huge backlog of fanfiction to go through… and keep track of instances where I find what I just mentioned. I’ll get back to you on that when I get a good number set up and categorized. That's in progress now and I plan on posting my results to this website.
At any rate, this is just my opinion, though it seems to be one in the minority. Like I said back up at the top, if you have a problem with any of this or you want to discuss anything just let me know. Anon messages I have to publish but if you want to have a private reply I’ll respect that.
Thanks for reading
Leah
Notes
I would like serious replies only, and if you think that I am wrong or incorrect let me know! I'm open for discussion. My tumblr (where I will get messages the easiest) is here. Don't hesitate to contact me, I'm always open for messages.
I totally agree with you! I am very picky on this site because nearly every single fanfic is the same with these 'major issues'. Yes depression, bulimia and suicide are serious issues that are affecting young people today but the majority of these fanfics are clearly written by young teenagers who are obsessed with thinking that self harming is cool or whatever. I find it incredibly frustrating because they clearly don't understand how a person feels when they're that down. I've just recently been diagnosed with depression and I was very close to self-harming again, my aunt committed suicide and I was in an abusive relationship but I'm getting help and I use this site as a creative outlet and a coping mechanim, even though i've experienced some of the shit these authors write about, even I get sick of them. I actually sometimes get offended to the way some of the stories are written but then again it's probably due to the authors own ignorance.
What also annoys me as a writer is that I feel that when I lose subscribers and such, it's because my story doesn't have all that drama. What's wrong with having a nice relatively drama free story? Or perhaps it could just be because i'm not very good. Either way, i'm saying I agree, not every story needs a main character who is depressed. I don't think that it should mean depression, self-harm, suicide and abuse should never be put into stories, in fact I think it could be extremely beneficial if someone did it right. But with them being such complex issues I understand it would be very difficult to do. I personally would love to do one based on my own life experiences but just don't know if I could do it justice.
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